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I Have To Say It……………….

In For the Stilletos, Just Thoughts on March 12, 2012 at 12:01 AM

I have to say this.  I’ve shared my comments in response to articles I’ve read on line.  And, I’ve chimed in to a friend or two’s Facebook status regarding the topic.  So, I might as well bring it to my own forum.  I try not to get too political on our blog but I think the straw that broke the camel’s back is now beginning to kill the camel.

Let me just say for background: although I’m a born and raised Christian, this has never stopped my respect or acceptance for the existence of other religions.  Some members of my family and some of my closest friends are Muslim.  Some of my closest friends are Jewish.  I have a few friends that follow the faith of Buddha and some who just believe in the power of the Universe.  And, our wedding was a Catholic ceremony with our reception at the hall of a Jewish temple with a Muslim photographer.  (Not sure how we pulled that off, but we did it).  Honestly, although I follow one faith, I really don’t see a difference in the underlying message of all faiths: Love, Respect, Human Kindness and Decency.

With that being said, I’m not really sure how we reached this so called religion of rights.  Again, I’m a Christian.  Specifically, I am Catholic, and a woman, and like 98% of other catholic women, I use birth control.  It doesn’t matter why, how or when I use it either.  It makes me no less Catholic or no less Christian.  And, my religion shouldn’t determine whether or not any medication that I take should fall under my insurance plan for $20 or outside of it for $120.  I find it absolutely ridiculous that a drug that happens to have a benefit within the simplicity of it’s name has suddenly become the hot debate amongst politicians who will never have to use it, will never understand its use through first hand experience or have no idea what its use even really does (obviously from the discussions).  It’s a simple-minded discussion that has been confined in use to the plain meaning of its name, “birth control”.  It’s a ridiculous debate.  Maybe if we called it Viagra or Cialis and ran sexually implicit advertisements, we could be more tolerant or accepting of its use under our medical plans.  And, this isn’t about government telling religions what to do.  That’s a scapegoat argument.  This is about giving women the ability to take a medicine within an affordable means under their health insurance.  This is about equal rights for ALL women regardless of religion to pursue the same rights and freedoms for their bodies and pay for it the same way they do other medications.  This is a woman’s right argument, NOT a religious right argument. Yes, controlling conception is an aspect of the drug.  And, it seems perfectly logical to me that if one is not ready to conceive, we’d rather prevent that conception then to fall into another debate of the early ‘70s.  Again, however, that is only ONE aspect of the drug since it also known to alleviate PMS, cancers, endometriosis, hormone imbalance and a list of other things that won’t cause you to be a “slut”.  I don’t know but horny old men taking little blue pills seems to fit that definition a lot better.

Nevertheless, the freakin’ NERVE of the Catholic Church to be worried about some birth control and the women who take it.  So, let me get this straight.  It is NOT okay for a woman to take birth control if they work for the Catholic Church or an affinity thereof, but it is okay for a man to use his influence as a leader of the Catholic Church to seduce little boys into sexual acts? YES! I went there!  I went there because I am sick and tired of people hiding their discriminatory and ridiculous beliefs behind their religion and playing the religion card when it comes to EQUALITY and the rights of others.  Whether it is women, gays, or other civil issues, I’m tired of people hiding behind their doctrines of what is right according to their religion ONLY when it is convenient to do so.  HOG WASH!!! Call it for what it is.  This is about women having any kind of control.  And, this is the reason there were NO women during the discussion surrounding the fate of health care policies concerning this drug.  Birth control, body control, leadership control in the Catholic church – where are the women?

No, really.  Where are the women?  Where are the Catholic women who are subjected to the unbalanced health insurance plans?  Where are the women on Capitol Hill who were shunned from attending discussions that really have more to do with them than those who were in attendance?  Is the Catholic Church that powerful that women are just silenced?  Really.  What year is this?  Am I just a bad Catholic girl for saying all of this, is there some code I’m violating or maybe I just don’t get it.  Maybe that Episcopal spin-off I attend is starting to influence me?  At least the women on the Hill could have rose in objection.  I mean, even if you don’t relate to the pill itself, remember, this is bigger than just the pill.  It’s these “pills” that are causing women to still trail behind in numbers within government and collectively voice concerns over similar issues or trail behind in pay within the work force of  America or trail behind in invitations to discuss issues that directly affect them.  They are all our “pills”.  And, if we don’t stand up and voice our concerns, unwanted pregnancies will be the least of our concerns in this country.  We’ll find ourselves going backwards and facing issues faster than you can say Dorothy Height or Elizabeth Stanton!

Regardless of beliefs, however, take the discussions regarding religion OUT of the political debates.  I do believe in the separation of Church and State and while I understand how this whole birth control/religious freedom topic came about, take the religious topics and beliefs out of the politics.  It doesn’t belong and it’s a dangerous, slippery slope.  We’re already starting to see comments regarding religion tiptoe on the brim of volcanic political debates and I personally don’t think it’s appropriate within the diversity of America.  Talk about issues that should be under government control like bringing back jobs that have flown overseas, bringing back the quality of our public education systems, bringing our taxes under fair and just control, reduce our animosity between other countries who want to bring about war.  Stick to the real issues! I’m so tired of these lazy-minded, hot button topics talking politicians who want to dodge meaningful issues to fulfill personal agendas rather than working to really make this country great.  You can’t rise to power by simply taking another person down.  I think this country and the people of this country deserve better than that.  If you want to rise to greatness and be the leader of the free world, just freakin’ be great!!!!

There!  I Said It!  That’s What’s Up!